4 easy ways to find out what a person really is

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Can you imagine a world in which there is no deception? It is unlikely that someone will have enough imagination to realize how much we lose or how much we gain if we stop lying to each other. A person lies  every day, therefore, skills to bring the interlocutor to clean water will be useful to everyone.

Moreover, each of us was once mistaken in people. At such moments, we think about how one could not immediately notice that a person is unreliable, and you can not rely on him. And it also happens that we simply cannot find a common language with someone, because we did not bother to observe a person in order to create his portrait.

But how do you really know a person? Colleague, potential partner, friend? There are a lot of articles on the Internet, such as "ask these questions to get to know a person for real."
But how do you imagine this? Are you planting a person in front of you and starting to interrogate? Not many people will agree to this.

 

The other extreme is to believe that a person can be recognized only for a long period of time. However, John Alex Clark, the coach, is sure that the key to this issue is not time, observation and the ability to bind the information received in one chain.

There are several very simple and at the same time powerful tricks that will help you identify patterns in a person’s behavior and find out his character. We’ll talk about them.

How to recognize a person
1. Notice the details

Every day a person performs a huge number of routine actions: buys food, rides in transport, speaks on the phone, etc. A person’s actions can shed light on his personality, as well as help predict how he will behave in a given situation.

Example A. If a person chooses the same dish every day in a cafe, then he probably eschews change and does not like the state of uncertainty. Such people can be faithful and faithful spouses. But on the other hand, it will be extremely difficult to convince him to make risky investments or move to another country.

Example B. People who like to play on the stock exchange and engage in other risky activities are more likely to take risks in other areas of life. For example, such a person can quit his job without finding another and not thinking about financial security for the time of unemployment.

Example B. A person who always looks in both directions when crossing the road is most likely prudent and cautious. He will thoroughly think over every little thing before making any decision, and will only take a well-calculated risk.

That is, if you analyze the actions of a person in one area, you can understand how he will behave in other areas.

2. Pay attention to how a person communicates.

How does your interlocutor behave in communication? Is he trying to build a relationship with each person, or does he single out those who are close to him in spirit and holds the rest on an outstretched arm? Talking without a clear plan, on a hunch, focusing on impressions, or still constantly analyzing, trying to be objective and not trusting intuition?

Is man more a thinker based on concepts, images, schemes, and ideas, or is he rather a practitioner living in a world of measurable quantities, tasks, and facts? If you observe everyday words and behavior, you will be able to follow the general line.

3. Talk with a person about relationships with mutual friends, about contacts at work

Many believe that gossiping is an empty lesson without any meaning. However, the main thing in this matter is what qualities the interlocutor gives to other people, how he explains their behavior. Often, when we talk about other people, we unconsciously notice what is present in ourselves.

These conversations will help to understand what we value in the people around us, who we want to be like, and also what we want to change in ourselves. The more often we talk about others that they are emotionally stable, happy, kind-hearted or polite, the higher the likelihood that we ourselves possess these characteristics.

If a person says about another that he is pretending to dig a hole for someone, this may mean that such a person is prudent and builds only relationships built on momentary benefits.

4. Feel the boundaries

When a person wants to build a relationship getting to know you, he sees the good and ignores the bad. However, sooner or later the illusions will still dissipate, and the person will appear before you in all its glory. A person who knows how to communicate correctly, first of all, will seek in the interlocutor not good, but his borders.